Usually, we make a list of goals for ourselves to achieve or accomplish something to get ahead in our professional or personal lives. Then, you set specific and attainable goals to complete within a certain amount of time to motivate you into meeting them to reach your desired destination for where you want to be in the future.
We also have a lot of fears and anxieties in life. And one way to get ahold of those fears and anxieties is to write them down.
When people worry, they tend to imagine the worst thing that could happen. In reality, these worries may never come true. What could happen isn't the same as what will happen.
Writing them down gives you the perspective you need to make your fears seem not as scary.
The following exercise can let you regain control and power over your fears.
Begin by getting a piece of paper and something to write with.
On a page, make three different columns.
In the first column, write and define your fears, anxieties, or worst-case scenarios.
Defining fears gets the worst-case scenario on the page, and it's almost always not as bad as we make it out to be.
In the second column , think of ways to prevent your fear from happening to take control of unwanted outcomes.
And in the third column, write down what you should do if your fears come true. Again, being prepared can help reduce additional stress.
Working through this list allows you to be true to yourself by physically putting your fears on paper, taking control, and thinking of solutions ahead of time.
When you put things into perspective, your fears feel manageable and smaller than before.
Try to write down your fears by creating the three columns shown in the image below, and allow yourself to think of creative solutions to take complete control of them.
Does being lazy mean you’re unhappy?
The short answer is no. It’s ok to be lazy sometimes.
Many people believe that you have to be productive all the time. So if you're home with nothing to do or nothing planned, many are under the impression that you must keep doing things, so it doesn't feel like you wasted your day.
While having a day off does give you opportunities to finally get things done that you couldn't do during your busy week, such as laundry and cleaning stuff around the house, you shouldn't feel pressured or feel the need to be productive at all times.
Our bodies and minds need rest to recharge after a long week. After all, rest is essential to keep going.
As Dr. Isabelle Moreau puts it best when she said: "Boredom and laziness should be used as a means to regain control over one's own body and one's own time."
Taking one day to relax and recharge by doing nothing, either by sitting on the couch watching TV or engaging in something that relaxes you, can benefit your mental health by reducing stress.
Also, having some time to do nothing can clear our minds and potentially give us clear answers to problems that we might have on our minds.
Now, there are times when being lazy can be harmful. For example, lack of ambition, energy, or motivation to the point where nothing gets done can negatively impact specific aspects of your life and can become a more significant issue. But taking one or two lazy days out of the week can benefit you.
Take a day to be lazy and make it a way to reward yourself after completing a busy week.
Instead of procrastinating, get done what you've been putting off, and then reward yourself by doing nothing after or completing work or personal goals throughout the week, so there's no guilt in doing nothing later.
So the next time you have a day with nothing planned, don't always feel the need to keep being productive.
Don't feel guilty for having a lazy day with nothing to do, as it can help you recharge and clear your mind after a long week.
The role of the grandparent in a child's life is ever-changing. While playing many roles, from mentors to teachers, loving companions, historians to sometimes the best friend, the most beautiful thing about grandparents is that they love what they do and simply being with their grandchildren brings them joy every day.
While reading this, I'm sure you can think about all the amazing memories you have with your grandparents. The times they took you shopping during the summer months for back to school clothes, getting comfy on the couch together to watch your favourite Disney movie, giving you money for no reason, and the best part, tucking you in for bed at night and kissing you on the forehead.
Grandparents are like chicken soup for the soul. Whenever you're feeling ill or sad, a grandparent knows just exactly what to do to help you. Not only do they instil in us so many life lessons, but they also teach us how to be kind and see the world in a completely different light.
A grandparents' love is endless and what we take with us when they are no longer with us turns into something that truly impacts our lives, our future children's lives, and our future grandchildren's lives. If I'm speaking for myself, some of the life lessons I have learned from my own experience with my beautiful and kind-hearted grandmother are being kind to everyone, being patient, and showing endless love, but the list doesn't end there.
Lesson 1: Cherish Every Moment
This one just makes sense, but I think something that sticks out for me is how my grandmother made it her mission to always focus on the moment. No matter what we were doing, having dinner at the table, watching a movie together, counting down the seconds before the ball dropped on New Year's Eve, decorating the Christmas tree, or just sitting there and talking, she was always in the moment.
Lesson 2: Be Kind To Everyone
My grandma was all about being kind to everyone and anyone. Even if that person hurt her, she was kind regardless of the situation. She showed kindness everywhere she went and tried her best to make people feel comfortable in any situation.
Lesson 3: Be Patient
I will never forget having a conversation with my grandma when I got engaged to my now-husband years ago. After our engagement, we still hadn't gotten married for the years to follow, which made me feel like I was doing something wrong. When I talked to my grandma about it, she said one simple thing, "You will get married when it's time. Give it time." After that, it was instilled in me that something that is meant to happen will, and it did! Patience is all I needed to have.
Lesson 4: Always Say I Love You
Never forget to express your love to the people who matter the most, no matter the circumstances. While growing up, no matter how much I gave my grandma attitude or was ignorant to my surroundings, she would always say she loved me regardless of what was happening at that moment. Stuff like that made me realize how crucial it is to acknowledge that the people around you that may be going through pain or struggles still need to hear those three simple words. Those words can change someone's day and someone's perspective.
Lesson 5: It's Never Too Warm For Socks
I'm sure many people can relate to this one, but how many people's grandmothers or grandparents insisted on them wearing socks? Even if it was boiling hot out, it was a huge priority for my grandma to have socks on our feet. She always got upset with my sister and me, even my friends, to put on a pair of socks. It was so important to her that we were warm and comfortable.
Lesson 6: Keep Giving
For a big portion of my grandma's life, she gave back to the community and those who needed it the most. It was important to her to help those in need, and she dedicated herself to those around her. I learned quickly from her that even though my world may feel like it's falling apart, there is someone else going through it harder, worse, and dealing with more and always being thankful for what I have.
Our grandparents greatly influence us, whether we are super close with them or only see them on special occasions. The bond between a child and their grandparents can never be broken.