The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams. - Oprah
A few weeks ago, we looked at finding happiness at work by using the PERMA model - the theory of wellbeing - to provide practical ways to apply its components in your work life, which you can check out here.
Today, we're going to look at how to be happy in your personal life.
Believe it or not, 40% of happiness is genetic. So, our joy and attitudes can be attributed to our genes.
But how can we control our happiness and seek contentment and satisfaction in our everyday life? This can be broken down into a few different aspects:
1. Pursue Personal, Self-Rewarding Goals
One way to achieve happiness is rewarding yourself after completing goals or tasks. Give yourself a little treat after finishing the things you set out to do. This can be treating yourself after a long day of work, completing chores, and doing things you've been putting off.
2. Focus on community growth
Explore your city and engage in your community by volunteering or supporting small businesses and local artists. Community engagement gives us a sense of togetherness and belonging, plus we become happier by helping others.
3. Driven by internal reward
Allow yourself to be ambitious and work hard to get to where you want to go by challenging yourself to be the best you can be. Completing tasks and working to the best of your ability gives you the satisfaction of a job well done instead of needing someone else's validation.
4. Driven by the enjoyment of the activity
Embrace activities you love and soak in new experiences. Always appreciate the feeling and feel connected to your environment.
Life is a journey. Enjoy the moment and embrace the process. When you live your life wide open, you can allow yourself to be free to learn how to make yourself happy.
When it comes to expressing emotions, there are different expectations when it comes to men versus women. Most of the time, women are viewed as “sensitive” so it’s socially acceptable for a woman to express her sadness. But men, who are viewed as courageous and strong, are not encouraged to outwardly express their emotions.
These cultural norms and stereotypes have been circulating around for generations, and the lasting effects they have can be toxic, especially for men. Men who do show their emotions are usually viewed as weak, because of that, many men repress their emotions because they’re afraid of seeming weak and not manly. However, suppressing emotions can be so detrimental to anyone’s mental health.
The Consequences of Emotional Avoidance:
Part of what makes us human is our ability to feel our emotions and process our emotions. Without processing the way we feel, we allow ourselves to build up our emotions within us which can result in anger, trauma and other mental health disorders. Suppressing emotions can lead to anxiety and even depression, and with the stigma around men and their emotions, not allowing a man to be vulnerable and open about the way he feels can lead him down a dark path.
Studies show that for men, being told to “man up” or “act like a man” is something that they learn and hear from a very young age and it remains with them into adulthood. Overtime, men get really good at avoiding their emotions, or coping with their emotions is a more acceptable way for males. It creates what most would describe as toxic masculinity, which can be hard to break once it becomes a habit.
Learning To Be Vulnerable:
Learning how to be vulnerable with your emotions is not something easy and usually very hard to do once you’ve been in a habit of suppressing how you feel all the time. However, there are ways around this that may seem out of someone's comfort zone, but the only way to grow is to be put in situations that make you uncomfortable to do what you need to do for yourself and your mental health.
2. Find therapeutic hobbies
This is something not only men should be but everyone should try. Bringing new activities into your life that create excitement and joy is one way to feel like you’re connecting with yourself more. Cooking, exercise, art, and music are just some examples of things you can do for yourself to get mentally healthy, even going for a walk every day can help structure you into a healthier daily routine.
When it comes to a job, it's good to find something you enjoy or at least tolerate. There's nothing worse than commuting to a job you despise in the morning.
Whether you are overwhelmed by your workload, you don't have the support you need, your management, or you feel like you have nowhere else to go, there are many reasons why people might be unhappy in their careers.
And the truth is, a lot of people are just not happy at work.
According to Forbes, 81 percent of employees fake happiness.
Many people act happy to create the illusion that nothing is wrong so they can be team players who can take on anything since they don't want to seem ungrateful.
There will be good days when it comes to your job, and there will also be bad days when you'll want to give up.
To be truly happy at work, or in any area in your life, try the PERMA model - the theory of wellbeing - to provide practical ways to apply its components in your private practice or personal life.
PERMA stands for:
Positive Emotions - this includes a work/life balance to give you time to do what you love, so you're not working too many hours.
Engagement – engage with your work with tasks that keep you busy to make your day go by quicker.
Positive Relationships – with your co-workers you work well with and feel the respect and support you need.
Meaning – you feel valued, appreciated, and have a sense of worth from your company, manager and co-workers.
Accomplishment – feelings of fulfillment in the work you're doing.
Even if it's not your dream job, try to find something that makes you feel content. Feeling supported, appreciated, and engaged can come with rewards in your career.
This is something that has been occurring for so long, but I never had a definite answer until now.
The period flu isn’t a real medical term, but it sure does sum up how a lot of women feel right before getting their period. Flu-like symptoms like nausea, cramping, fever, and headaches are just some of the complaints that have some people wondering if they’re getting sick or just going crazy during that time of the month. But the good thing is, you’re not alone. The period flu is a thing but has nothing to do with the actual flu.
So why does this happen?
Experts aren’t totally sure about what causes this phenomenon, but hormone fluctuations throughout your menstrual cycle are the most likely culprit. Before getting your period, prostaglandins which are basically like your hormone’s fatty acids, are there to help your uterus shed its lining.
With an excess number of prostaglandins as well as cyclic changes in your sex hormones, it can cause you to feel run down, exhausted, and even create chills throughout your body.
What are the symptoms?
Before or during your period, you can experience symptoms like…
Although this is something that not all women deal with, there are things you can do to help prevent this from happening or lessen the symptoms that come along with it.
-Exercise regularly: Exercising has been shown to help improve a lot of discomforts that are associated with period cramps, depression, and lack of energy.
-Eating healthy food: Eating healthier is always a great idea, but it’s a better idea when it’s two weeks before starting your cycle. Doing this can help reduce your PMS symptoms. Cutting down on alcohol, smoking, sugars, and caffeine intake will do wonders.
Try applying those two tips and hopefully it will help lessen the nasty and uncomfortable feelings you get before and during your period.