You’re a millennial and you’re probably familiar with the constant criticism your age group gets from the older generation. What most people don’t realize as an individual of the millennial generation, we have been experiencing challenges for our entire adult life and it’s not even our fault.
Instead of criticizing the millennial generation, people should try and understand the issues and problems that have unfortunately affected our adult lives.
It’s more likely nowadays that millennials have a secondary degree versus the older generation. More jobs in today's market require a bachelor degree or more, so many millennials have felt no choice but to go to College or University to obtain an education to eventually help them land a job in their potential field.
Sadly, these degree’s come at a massive cost. Student debt is one of the biggest challenges that is facing millennials and the up and coming younger generation of students. According to a CTV article from 2021, nearly two million Canadian students owed the federal government a total of $20.5 billion, with the average loan balance exceeding $13,000 at the time of leaving school.
It’s no joke that finding a job that's aligned with your values and purpose is hard to get, but it’s even harder to find a job with a decent amount of pay for the work. For most millennials, they graduated from College or University in the hopes to join the workforce immediately. In the last 10 years, unemployment has dropped, but since COVID, it quickly increased again and no one knows what the future looks like, so finding a job that aligns with your passions as well as your overall goals is not something most millennials can hope for.
How many times have you heard the older generation say to you, “You guys are still in that apartment, why haven’t you moved into a house?”
On average, wages haven't increased with the overwhelming increase of the real estate market in the last few years. On top of the pre-existing student loans, rising gas prices, low wages and the increasing cost to live, how can anyone afford a home in this unpredictable market?
With all of the financial issues and inconsistency happening in the world around us, it’s no wonder millennials are under so much stress and even worse, depressed. All generations have their own challenges of course, but millennials are facing employment challenges, the high cost of living, and many other stressors. These issues can take a serious toll on anyones mental health and with the limited amount of mental health facilities available in most communities, it can become harder to tackle these issues head on. As well as be able to live a life of freedom and abundance without the overwhelming worry of how you’re supposed to stay afloat when the job market, the housing market and the current wage are affecting every aspect of your life.
So before you judge a millennial for their choices of not owning a home, a car or even obtaining a secondary education, look at the world around us and try to understand from their perspective that living in an unpredictable world can create an unpredictable mindset.
Having self-respect is one of the best things you can do for yourself. When you respect yourself, you're not afraid to embrace yourself - flaws and all - and you learn to be kinder to yourself. But having self-respect isn’t something that comes easy, it takes a lot within someone to look in the mirror and respect themselves fully. Heck, I think we are all still trying to practice self-love and admiration. It doesn’t come easy, but there are some daily practices you can implement to fall more in love with yourself.
Here are ways you can practice self-respect:
It's essential to love yourself and respect yourself. Always remember to be patient and easy on yourself. Don't kick yourself too hard when you make mistakes.
Know your worth and don't get taken advantage of:
It's ok to help out and be a team player, but whether you are at work or helping someone out, remember that your time is essential. Also, don't let people take advantage of you in your personal and professional life.
Stand by your beliefs and morals:
If something doesn't feel right to you or you feel pressured into doing something you don't want to do, stand your ground and respectfully decline. This will help you stay true to yourself by respecting your boundaries and values.
Communicate your needs:
If something is bothering you, don't hesitate to vocalize it. Don't stay silent to "keep the peace" out of fear of upsetting someone. If something is bothering you or you need to express something, express your needs.
Be in touch with yourself:
You know what you need physically and mentally to keep motivated and energized. Remember to check in with yourself on what you need and what you want. These could be goals you want to achieve, setting time aside to do what you want or need, etc.
Do things that make you happy and don't feel ashamed of it:
Do the things that make you happy in the world. Embrace activities you love and soak in new experiences. Always appreciate the feeling and feel connected to your environment.
Let go of toxic relationships in your life:
If someone is negative and takes a lot of your energy when they are around, don't be afraid to take a step back and value your relationship. Be around people who only bring positivity to your life.
Connect with nature:
Remember to get fresh air and to move your body with stretching and exercise, no matter how big or small.
The task of showing yourself love and respect takes a lot, it comes with maturity, respect for yourself and your own morals but also indulging in alone time.
You deserve love and respect just like everyone else. So, why not start with loving and respecting yourself?
Everything in our lives is based on choices. There is not one thing that you do or experience that isn’t the direct outcome of a choice you made, whether it is deliberate or by default, whether it is immediate or delayed, whether it is to your liking or to your detriment, everything you go through is because of your choices.
There are no exceptions.
Every day, you are faced with numerous choices, from the time you wake up until the time you go to sleep. Everything that you do in any given moment relies on our direct ability to make choices, there is no getting around this.
As soon as you make a choice, you give birth to a thought and immediately give yourself the permission to act upon the choice to complete the thought, or make it become reality in your life. For example: you choose to shower because you want its result of being clean, as soon as you make that choice the thought process begins to manifest in your mind, but you can’t just choose it, you must actually physically get up and make it happen, so you start to act on it: you get your clothes ready, you gather your towel and your favourite soap, go to the bathroom, turn on the water, take off your clothes, etc. You do all of this because you made a choice to get clean that morning, and then you acted on it by deciding to take a shower and taking the necessary steps to make it happen, and therefore ended up taking a shower and getting clean. Your initial morning thought and mini-crossroads about whether or not you were going to shower or not, led you to making a choice and following through to that choice’s ultimate end goal: getting clean.
There are no exceptions. No matter what it is, this is the process that our thoughts take, and it’s all based on what direction we choose to send a thought that depicts the outcome. This is why it is so important to pay attention to what we are choosing for ourselves, because every choice that we make creates a particular outcome. Whether it is to our benefit or not is always completely up to us and 100% our responsibility. Everything in your life right now is the direct result of all the choices you have personally made. Therefore, it is important that we choose wisely.
There is another very crucial component in this process of choosing which makes a world of difference in what type of choice and outcome you will accept to act upon in your life, and whether it will be positively or negatively charged. It is literally the life changing aspect of every decision you will ever make in your entire life. And that is the WHY.
The WHY always depicts the purpose, reason, intention, and inspiration of every single solitary choice you make and literally becomes the light that guides your actions so you know how to reach your goals effectively. Without a WHY, your choices have no definite place to be directed to, and neither does your life. This is the precise reason that the WHY is so dynamically huge, and why it must be deliberately determined ahead of time if your choices are to become automatically streamlined for your growth, love, and ultimate success.
Think of your WHY as the power behind every thought or as the roots of every seed. When you have your WHY, you have direction and a clear picture of where you want to go, what you want to do, or who you want to be.
Another reason why having a WHY is crucial to your well-being, is because without a clear purpose and reason for doing what you are doing, you will never be able to truly commit to the work that it takes to change your situation…Ever. No matter how bad it feels, how long it has been, or how much pain your lack of self-love has caused, you will not be able to change and follow through to a true life-changing transformation without developing strong WHYs first. This is because when there is no WHY, there is no goal, reason, intended result, nothing to commit to, work toward, or inspiration to do so. The WHY literally charges your thoughts with the power needed to make them come to life, and gives them the direction they need to make you reach your goals. When you have the WHY, you stop making random mistakes and going in circles repeating senseless patterns and behaviours over and over again.
The WHY gives your thoughts direction, and destination.
The moment you define your WHY, your choices take on a conscious awareness you didn’t experience before. This conscious awareness is what enables your thoughts to become streamlined and direction based. When you know where you’re going, then you’ll make sure your choices lead you toward that. When we have a strong sense of direction and determination, we consciously make the necessary choices that lead to the best possible outcome for ourselves. Think of it like an internal GPS that always knows the best way to get to your intended destination. That is the power of the WHY.
You just have to get in the mindset that you want to always make the best choices for yourself no matter how big or small the outcome, because every time you make a choice that propels you forward, you grow as a person, and your goals get closer and closer. The reason you need to be clear on the process of your choices and the purpose of the WHY is because when it comes to choosing to Love yourself, you need to understand this process first, so you set up the proper foundation that will keep you focused and committed.
I can’t do is give you the WHY—that is something you need to come up with on your own, and just like what you learned above about how our choices create our realities, if you want to create a loving reality for yourself, you have to have some pretty definite reasons for choosing to do so.
Think carefully about the reasons you want to love yourself. What is the outcome that you want to achieve in your life?
What is the purpose for you wanting to change your life?
Come up with your WHYs. Take some time to think about why you are choosing happiness today, and then brainstorm with yourself and write down at least three important reasons why you want to love yourself enough to get there. Some examples are: