Written by a F.A.B.U Contributor
Let me start this off by saying that I believe that men and women should be equal. Nobody should have an issue having a female boss, a female doctor, female lawyers, etc.
Do I think women should get paid the same as men for doing the same job? Absolutely.
But, we need to talk about toxic feminism. Yes, this is a thing. You’re probably familiar with the term toxic masculinity. It’s one of those terms that keep coming up on social media.
Well, guess what? Toxic feminism is a thing, too. And I’m going to talk about it right here.
Toxic feminism doesn’t apply to all feminists. It’s just a group of radical feminists that believe that raising women involves lowering men.
This is shown a lot online where a man will make one small critique. Then, female commenters will come in with an aggressive rant by demonizing all men and blaming them for the world’s problems - and sometimes, for their personal problems as well.
Feminism is meant to empower and make changes where they are due to make things better, not used as a weapon against men or thinking that it’s time for women to have all the power.
Not to mention the double standard happening here. Women don’t like when men make general assumptions about them. But, it’s “ok” for these radical feminists to generalize all men as aggressive oppressors?
While it is true that men have gotten away with a lot in the past, and toxic masculinity is still an ongoing problem. Still, it doesn’t mean that women have the right to act and behave the same way. Both women and men should be held accountable.
For example, in an era where the #MeToo movement is cracking down on men like Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein, who are finally getting justice for their predatory behaviour, there’s barely any conversation going on about women who assault men.
Remember when Cardi B admitted to drugging men and robbing them when they went back up to her hotel room?
Nothing came of it. She didn’t get cancelled. She got a little bit of criticism online, but overall, people just laughed it off because, you know, “classic Cardi” and didn’t get any repercussions. She even starred in the movie Hustlers, which pretty much featured this same scenario. It was never brought up again.
We can’t have equality if that’s the attitude that people have. If it’s wrong for a man to do something, it’s also wrong for a woman to do the same thing. All because men have gotten away with it doesn’t mean women should get a pass.
I’ll finish off with this final thought. We need to keep fighting for human rights, but we can't be hypocrite about it. Men and women can help each other succeed with respect and understanding.