Desiring Happiness Is A Form Of Unhappiness

We carry in us an insatiable desire for more. Desire for more money, more friends, a bigger house, nicer car. It's natural to want more and desire more, but when you get into the mindset of needing to get more, it makes you feel empty and look for other ways to fulfill yourself.

The wish for happiness exists within every single human being; however, the concept of happiness varies depending on the development of each individual. The desire for more, bigger and better is never-ending, and that doesn't just mean material things; we are always looking for the long-lasting emotional high as well. But, often, this is the wrong way to go about it.

Think about it. Happiness isn't something that we chase; it's something that happens naturally, and this is why the pursuit of happiness is entirely flawed.

We have this conception that happiness means joyfulness and excitement, but humans aren't meant to stay joyful or excited at all times. So if one is focused on pursuing happiness, even momentarily achieved happiness, what is one to do when these feelings wax and wane?
It can set you up for a trap when you begin to realize that all of your life cannot be joyful and exciting at all times.

Before you question that, I'm not saying you can't have moments of happiness; of course, you will, but you will also have moments of sadness, fear and pain. Just like any other human, you feel many emotions. The thing that is missing is being entirely in the present moment with our thoughts. We get so caught up with the idea of, "In the future, I'll be happy, I'll be happier once I get a better paying job," by doing this, we are not allowing ourselves to realize that usually in the present moment, most things are joyful and calm.

It's time to reimagine happiness and give a new definition of what that word means. Genuine happiness is when we can go within and work through all of the things that are holding us back. It also correlates to other stuff like cultivating gratitude, embracing all feelings that arise with curiosity and compassion, developing the capacity to create a meaningful narrative of our life, and developing enough intimacy with ourselves that we can engage in relationships with others.


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