Whether you’re younger or older, at the top of your game or just starting out in the working world, fearing your own success is a very real and pervasive thing that can dramatically undermine your happiness.
When we suffer from the fear of our own success, we may subconsciously self sabotage ourselves in certain ways like turning away opportunities, not choosing the right opportunities, or not going after what we truly want, leaving ourselves feeling unfulfilled.
If we truly want to find out what brings us the ultimate joy in our life, we have to first come to a realization of what’s holding us back from having it all.
A growing fear of success:
More often than not, we find our fear of succeeding between our desire to flourish and our deep rooted insecurities that are telling us we are not allowed to have success in our lives. Hitting the big time or getting what we desire can be a scary idea, but what’s even scarier is staying still and not moving forward.
“Comfort and the fear of change are the greatest enemies of success.”
When we allow ourselves to remain stuck, detach ourselves from positive environments and people, we deny ourselves the ability of experiencing happiness and fulfillment. Being happy means being completely confident in who we are and what we do. It means letting go of the idea that we aren’t good enough and replacing it with the words, “I am enough.”
How we can use our fears to manifest our success:
Stop yourself! Once you recognize your fear of being successful coming up, or the thought that you are not good enough, it’s time to rewire your brain. Rethink your thought process, take the time to heal and say it out loud, I am GOOD enough. I am DESERVING of it all. Fear plays an important role in our everyday lives, it kicks us into shape and helps us realize what we still need to work on within ourselves.
1. Fail Faster
This is the worst part of finding success in your life. Failure is not an option in many people's books but what most don’t realize is when you fail faster, it gives you the space to learn faster. With failure comes success.
2. Cut out negative influences
I promise you there will be negative people in your life who will only show you support when it benefits them. It takes time to learn who your true circle is, but this is a part of growth and essentially life. Cutting out the people who influence you negativity is a crucial step in developing a strong relationship with yourself.
3. Get uncomfortable
It’s called your comfort zone for a reason. Staying in the same spot is comfortable because it’s the only thing you’ve allowed yourself to know. But growth doesn’t happen inside our comfort zones, it happens when we step outside of our zones and allow ourselves to see a whole new world of opportunity and hope. Step outside and do something that makes you uncomfortable!
Let go of your fear of success, and unleash yourself in ways that are both transformational and life-affirming. We find fulfillment through achieving our goals, and we do this by finding our confidence and establishing our self-worth. If you want to stop being scared of your full potential, you have to embrace the uncertainty of a future that is built entirely by you.