Grieving the loss of yourself

Having an identity is a funny thing. The way we see ourselves, the way others see us. The story we tell ourselves about who we are plays a role in our identity and what we are to this earth.

But sometimes we don’t always have a conscious awareness of who we really are. We can easily lose ourselves in our everyday lives and never come to the full realization that we disappeared from that identity we once associated ourselves with.

One morning you may wake up and not recognize the person standing in front of the mirror. This can happen gradually or day by day, you will start to feel yourself growing more distant from the person you used to be.

You may lose complete interest in the things that you once loved, or you might find yourself utilizing what others love just to fill a void. You may find yourself becoming more fearful of normal everyday activities or you may find yourself wanting to jump into things that you would never actually do.

And let’s be honest, you may have these highs and these lows throughout your life. Sometimes when you lose your identity, you lose the ability to see beyond your pain.

​You are here but you’re floating through life, it’s basically like your body packed up and moved on but never warned your mind about it.

Here’s where the confusing part comes in, sometimes losing yourself is what truly helps you find yourself. Especially in your 20’s, finding a comfort and love for yourself will always be an uphill battle but going through a period of losing yourself can help you see things in a different light.

If you’re lost at sea, just remember there is always a shore you can swim to that can save you. You may not get there right away, but I promise you will get there in time.

Time allows us a moment to step back and heal. It won’t happen right away, but you will get back to your real self in no time.