Lessons My Mother Has Taught Me

Mother’s Day is a day where people celebrate and reflect on all of the amazing memories and things that they have gotten from their mothers. Let’s be honest, one simple day isn’t enough, but you should take this one day to celebrate and love the significant parental figure in your life and all that they’ve done for you. 

For me, I don’t think an article will ever be able to give justice to what my mother has taught me about life, love, music, and being a kind person. Even though there have been many times that I have challenged my mom on many things, she has always been right and has and always will be the rock of my family. 

I've learned a lot from her, but there are some main things that stick out when it comes to the lessons she has taught me. 

1. We all feel the same
   
   

Something I never realized until I got older is that many people feel the same way I feel. The same lingering thoughts of self doubt, self hatred and overall recurring negative thoughts. It wasn’t until I had a conversation with my mom in my early 20’s about this that she opened my eyes to realizing that the way I was feeling about myself in the moment was a similar way she has felt, and many others in my life have felt. Besides judging that person for feeling that way, it’s best to support them in that situation. 


     2. Life is too short

Just like others, I have seen my mom go through her fair share of pain and heartbreak. Seeing her go through it, it helped me realize that life is very short and can be taken away from us at any point. Besides worrying about the bills, the debt, and the everyday struggles we have, it’s important to live. 


    3. Who cares what anyone thinks of you

My mother is a firm believer in being truly authentic to herself. It was always inspirational to me when I was a kid to see the way my mom talked to people. With such confidence and knowledge, she has always known the respect she deserved and has never held back from being honest with anyone about how she feels. That is something now in my adult years that I have developed, being real and authentic to how I feel about myself and the respect I know I deserve.

     4. Music can change your whole day 

Music has always been a love of mine and I believe that has to do with both my parents but mainly my mother. Her taste in music is everywhere, from hip hop to R&B, to jazz, and the 80’s rock, she is all ears when it comes to a good beat. On every road trip we had as a family, we always listened to the best music and no matter what was happening for my mom that day, the music always seemed to distract her and put her in a good mood, and now, it does the same thing for my sister and I.


    5. Surround yourself with people who value you 

This has been a hard one for me to get a handle on, and honestly, I still don’t have a handle on it. My mom always tells me the truth when it comes to the people around me. If she doesn’t like someone, I always know just from her body language and facial expressions. She’s right for one that I should surround myself with people that care about me as much as I do and stick my neck out for those who would do the same for me. 


There are so many more lessons I could write about, but if I was to do that, then this would be a full book. Be thankful each and every day for your mother, or for the woman in your life that feels like a mother to you, they are unique in your journey of life and all they want for you is to see you happy and growing.