There are things that we say or specific questions we ask others because they are common. But, little do some people know is that certain things you say or ask are actually a bit intrusive or simply passive-aggressive.
The following is a list of things that are everyday things you might hear but should stop asking or saying to people.
"You've put on some weight", or "You're looking skinny".
It's one thing to notice when someone looks different, but it's another to go out of your way to comment directly to the person who looks tubbier or point out how thin they are.
A comment like this could make someone feel uncomfortable or self-conscious.
In addition, you don't know what the other person is going through. For example, they might have a disorder or a condition that makes their weight fluctuate.
“You look tired.”
Again, saying someone looks tired can also make someone self-conscious. Maybe there's a reason for their lack of rest? Perhaps they don't need to hear it from others?
"That's a stupid idea."We all heard of the expression: "There's no such thing as stupid ideas." Well, it's true.
If someone comes up with an idea at work or discusses something to do, instead of shooting down the idea, why not take it as a jumping-off point and expand on it to make it better? Maybe there's a better idea hiding in there?
"Whose fault is that?"Saying this to someone after they make a mistake is not helpful.
You're not only putting the entire blame on that person for doing something wrong, but in a way, you're rubbing it in their face. Asking "well, whose fault is that?" has the undertone that you knew they would fail, and now they proved you right.
Instead, try to help solve the problem.
“Boys will be boys”
This is another common and outdated phrase. When boys get into fights or do something irresponsible, this phrase justifies their aggressive behaviour. Instead of brushing it off, teach boys that certain behaviours are not ok and hold them accountable.
“You should smile more.”
You don't need to smile to make others comfortable - plain and simple.
“When are you going to get married/have kids/start dating?”
Asking this is a little intrusive. Everyone's life is different. For example, it might take longer for some people to hit certain milestones.
Not only that, but they may have personal reasons why they don't have kids, aren't getting married, etc. With the current state of the economy, people are having a hard time buying houses, paying for weddings and having kids compared to how things used to be.
Everyone has their own journey, and it's not a race.
And "Keep My Name Out of Your Mouth".
This phrase is now associated with Will Smith when he infamously slapped Chris Rock at the 2022 Oscars ceremony, but it's also something people say right when they are about to fight. It's usually a very egotistical thing to say, and like the slap, we should stop talking about it.